Have you ever been in a place
where you feel victimized by a friend, a boss or a lover who has treated us
poorly or unfairly. How conveniently we start to believe that we are not worth
it start feeling the innocent victim of bad treatment But if you start to look
back and analyze a bit, you may realize that there is one common denominator in each
scenario and situation. That common is you.
We are the one who allow other
to treat us exactly how they want to, I know people who have settled for way
less then they deserve and considering it as destiny, I’m sure you know a lot
of people who have it all together in their life but when it comes to dealing
with relationships they adjusting with those douche bags
Even in my life I've tolerated
people who don't appreciate me, who don't value my heart, who take and take,
who don't call back, who have disrespected me. I've made excuses, justified and
eagerly re-entered the game of push and pull with people who clearly don't
really value me much at all. And you know what, it sucks and feels pretty
crappy at the end -- chipping away the low self-esteem that got me there in the
first place even more.
And you know you feel heart aches, heart tramples, picking up that phone
when every cell in your body knows it's the unhealthy thing to do, still you can’t
let go of it. The important thing for you at that point of time is to wake up
and realize that the most important relationship in your life is the one with
your own self.
Learn to embrace self-love
and stop apologizing for who you are and learn that you are perfect the way you
are right now, right here. I will constantly be growing, evolving and working
on bad habits, but those flaws, those imperfections are part of the beauty that
makes me, me. I can now easily recognize people who are drawn to me only for
the best of me, and as Marilyn Monroe best put it, "If you can't handle me
at my worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best."
Your heart is a precious gift.
Your body is a temple. Be selective. Respect it and be respected. Love yourself
and be loved. It you don't respect and love yourself first, building a healthy
relationship with another is like building a house with no foundation..
Know your value and don't
accept being treated in a way less than you deserve. Now this doesn’t mean that
you become unrealistic and demand ponies and castles but yes off course I am
saying that you deserve to be treated the way you treat others, and vice versa.
The minute you negotiate your self-worth and accept less, you say to the
universe that you don't deserve any better, and the vicious cycle/pattern
begins.
Choose
to completely surround yourself with positive, inspiring influences. You will
feel much happier and better about yourself .Just delete the people who make
you feel bad about yourself you don’t need them in your life
The
most important thing to remember is that you are worth it,
you can go another day, and you can be happy. Life will not
throw you anything you cannot handle or overcome.
Once you start to accept and love
yourself and your desired path, the smoke will clear and you
will breathe easy again
Once
you try to live up to an image of what you think others want to you to be, you
lose your self-worth. Instead, you are following a compass set by other
people's expectations, whether or not those expectations are clearly defined or
implied. Affirmative talk is not the sole
solution but it is part of a range of methods for boosting yourself and for
taking out time to acknowledge that you do matter -- just as much as every
person around you.
There
is this on song which I love and would
like to quote “You can’t please everybody all the time so instead of trying I say
“whatever”.
Stop
trying to please everyone and yes that’s the key only if you know what’s important
and who is worth keeping there will be no one yes I mean no one who will ever
have to face the disgrace of being disrespected.
