Happiness .....Secret for a longer life :P

How many of you actually feel like jumping on the bed and singing your lungs out with no audience around? Have you ever felt like going out in the rain and letting yourself get in the moment without noticing who is noticing you ! You are in room full of mature people and you want to crack a joke do you ? Noticing your crush walk by and pretending they don’t even exists just cause “what people might say “. Even if you want to act like “who cares “ you cant cause you are supposedly a mature adult working 9 to 5 , so wait you have to grow up . DO you !

My life is not perfect , I’m not always happy yes sometimes I do sit alone  writing and listening to songs that might make me cry does that make me “ not so happy person “ .

We have basically developed a line that our happiness depends on the approval of others .

This means that our level of contentment is proportionate to how pleased we think others are with us moment to moment. The problem is that we rarely think they approve of us enough, so we  are  rarely happy.

We  never think  about what we  want from life, only what would make others want to have us  around.

As William Shakespeare famously wrote, “Nothing is either good or bad but thinking makes it so.”

We think differently and act opposite of that just cause people wont approve , but is this making us happy ?

We each walk around with two versions of ourselves. One is our unconditioned self, which is innocent, flawless, and untouched by any trauma, criticism, or injustice we may have faced in life. The other is a learned self, more commonly known as the ego , the innocent child that has been forced to grow up !

The primary role of the ego is to separate you from the truth of who you really are The ego believes that happiness is attained through material success, achievement, deserving basically doing everything which limits you from “joy”..

But your unconditioned self is the much bigger, wiser you. It already knows that you are what you seek; that real happiness is what naturally happens when you dare to show up unedited , be who u want to be either its being an adult and serious about life or being careless and enjoying every moment just the way you want it to be .

The more we are willing to love ourselves, in all our messy glory, the less we go searching for happiness in the wrong places. When we are comforted by our own self-love, we no longer need to find comfort through external fixes.

Ultimately, the human experience is about connecting with other people. Connection is what provides value and meaning to our lives..

When you cease to make a contribution, you begin to die.
—Eleanor Roosevelt

If you allow your fear or shame to prevent you from showcasing your true self, then you will be preventing yourself from connecting fully with others. If you want to be able to move past fear, judgement, and uncertainty and into a healthier and happier life, then you have to give yourself permission first. You have to decide that you’re worthy.

If you always look toward tomorrow for happiness, odds are you will do the same when you attain what you’ve been dreaming of. We have forgotten to live in the moment by worrying about the future , will i have my dream house , will i get promotion  , what if i don’t get married to the right person hahhh !

You never know when your now’s will run out, so ask yourself, “How can I be that person I want to be in this moment?”

Start accepting things for how they are, regardless of whether you think it’s right or wrong.  Accept it as a fact.

Let’s say that you are frustrated because a work colleague isn’t doing what you think they should be doing.  The more you think about that situation, the more frustrated you get.  You give them feedback.  Maybe you argue with them.  But the situation doesn’t improve or maybe it gets even worse.

you can keep resisting or you can accept the situation without judgement.  You simply acknowledge it as a fact. There is no right or wrong. the resistance starts to melt away and the negative emotions inside your head and heart also start to disappear.

Always have good vibes around you avoid the negative people around you the

ones who seem to only see the negative side to every situation.  They are often pessimistic, angry, critical and rarely have anything constructive to say

Don’t allow negative people or situations to also drag you down into unhappiness.

One really powerful way to increase your happiness is to focus on helping others.  You can give money to charity — but there are more fulfilling ways of helping others.

Instead of giving money, give your time, just perform small random acts of kindness with no expectation of getting anything back